I have a question for you. Have you ever thought about yourself in the future? The more clear you are on that future, the the more happy and successful you will be in the future. Stick around and we'll kick off this month's topic, visualization. Hey guys, my name is Kimberly Pulito and I help people just like you, with ridiculously ambitious goals and dreams, level up their habits and take them from dreamer to doer.
This month is all about visualization. Whether you know it or not your future self is being built right now in this very moment. Thinking that way will help put your choices, your actions, your thoughts, your habits in the right perspective. Just think about it, how often do you say to yourself, I'll wash those dishes in the morning or I'll fold that laundry tomorrow. But think about it...how grateful would your future self be to wake up and not have any dishes in the sink and already have without laundry folded. Set your future self up for success.
One of the biggest factors in making these really smart decisions is knowing when to make short-term cost for long-term decisions. Now stick with me here. Let me elaborate. In today's world, there is a huge tendency for instant gratification. We want things right now. A great example of this is the marshmallow test. A group of researchers and scientists, gathered a bunch of children, put them in a room, and said you can have one marshmallow right now, but we'll give you five marshmallows if you wait five hours.
These scientists, followed these children and the ones who delayed the gratification, the ones who said, ‘you know what, I'm gonna wait because I want those five marshmallows,’ they did so much better in school. Got better grades, had a better mindset, got into better colleges, were more successful in their jobs, and more successful in life. They were able to look forward and said, ‘if I just hang out, I'm going to get more.’ Now if we don't think about our future self and are only thinking about the present moment, that can often lead to a lot of impulse decisions that will come back later. But lets take a minute and think back on your life five years, 10 years, 20 years. Your past self probably looks completely different than your life right now.
For example, 20 years ago for me. I was in high school. High school for me I was in a completely different mindset a completely different headspace. I had no idea that I would be where I am today doing what I'm doing with an amazing family. Back then, I didn't care about visualization, about identifying where I wanted my life to go, but now that I know better. I know how to visualize where I want my life to go.
So now I want you to think a little bit about what your next 5, 10, 20 years will look like. The successful person, the high performer, is extremely connected to their future identity. Right now, they see where they want to be in 5, 10, 20 years and they start making the steps and the changes to their habits in order to get there today.
To make this a little bit more understandable, it's actually one of the reasons why New Year's resolutions don't often work, people love the idea of eating healthy and losing weight but they cannot see themselves doing that and being that person next week, next year. They never actually see the person in their mind achieve those results. They just say this is who I am. This is what I eat cookies, chips, pizza. They don't see enough significant transformation in their future self to where they don't make those significant changes in their habits today in order to get there.
So I'm curious. Let me know down in the comments on a scale of 1-10. 1 being you have never ever thought about your future self and a 10 would be you have 100% clarity, You know exactly where you're going. I can't wait to see what you guys say.
So what do you want for your future you? I want you to really recognize those subconscious things that you do to build your future you think about those tasks that you do every day to set yourself up for success. Maybe it's unpacking your suitcase. As soon as you get done from a trip, maybe you've just moved and you unpack everything, or maybe it's wearing a retainer at night. Really recognize how you're already creating your future you and then build upon that.
Now the last thing I want to leave you with is a really awesome website called futureme.org. This is an awesome website where you can write your future self an email and you can choose between 1, 3, 5 years or you can choose your own timeline. It could be next week. It could be, you know, six months from now, but you can write an email to your future self and have a conversation and share where you think you're going to be then and then kind of match it up when that time comes.
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